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I’ve been wondering what’s so different between a person with lots of friends and a person with little friends. I’m not talking about two complete opposites like a celebrity and a social outcast, i’m talking about two people who seem similar, two people who could be described as normal, like me and you. So if that’s the case, why do they have such a different friend tally?
Obviously it has something to do with the person themself, so is there some sort of special, magic quality that every single well-known person has? Is there one kind of personality that is generally attractive to the human race? I’ve taken a hard look at my friends and i’ve come to the conclusion that every single one of them is flawed, but what flaw is the most damaging in a social context? What in a person makes them so likable or unlikable?
I guess i’m asking myself this because i’m wondering why i can’t seem to have a firm idea of what my friends think of me. I’m not the biggest loser around, but i’m not exactly the most popular guy either. I understand that i can get annoying sometimes, but i feel like that hyperactive side of me is what makes me so endearing to others.
It’s not like i go around blasting every person i see for being too ugly or too stupid right in their face, so why is it that i’m not getting the kind of relationships i want? Could it be that i’m just a boring person? Knowing my unique-self, probably not. But then why is it so hard for me to draw a person in when people i see as my peers can seemingly pull in friends with as much ease as taking a single breath.
I see the way that a few of my friends have acquaintances hanging on their every word. What makes me so different from them? I’m thinking i’m lacking the confidence, the humor, maybe the aura of a friendly person. But it’s not like i’m shy, dull and unspoken. I’m average, right?
So is that it then? Average people don’t become popular? I guess you have to excel at something that’s really admired by other people in order to have a big friend tallly. You can guess who wants to change himself now that the secret’s out.
In the meantime though, i’m still just an average guy whose always wanting a little bit more.
God bless!
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